Sex Positive and Body Positive Approach
What is Sex Positive and Is it Good for Nudism?
What is sex-positive?
Sex positive means acknowledging and respecting that everyone is unique in their sexual identity, orientation, and myriad of sexual desires. Sex-positive says it’s okay to be hypersexual, and it’s okay to be asexual (ie, no interest in sex). Gay, straight, bi, transgender, intersex, polyamorous, monogamous, BDSM, fetishes, kinky sex, vanilla sex. Basically, as long as it’s between consensual adults, it’s all A-okay.
This means completely refraining from shaming or judging a person for their sexual activities and preferences. It’s important to note that the “consent” aspect rules out sex with animals and children. (There are debates about what constitutes consent, but I’m not going to get into that.)
As nudists and naturists, there is always the need to emphasize that nudism is not about sex. This is mostly since nudity and sex are so inextricably connected in people’s minds. But we, as an organization, are sex-positive.
Our philosophy is a sex positive one. Whatever you do with your sex life is not for us to judge, nor is it any of our business.
We welcome everyone, including swingers, as long as they behave and abide by the rules at events.
(I mention swingers because they have always been present in the nudist community. Unfortunately, nudist clubs occasionally become swinger sex resorts.) We don’t care what they do behind closed doors.
Just don’t mistake us for a sex-party swinger group!!!
So nudism is not about sex or sexuality. And yet, what we uncover that bothers everyone else, are the genitals and female breasts (at least in part because they are considered sexual). In America I’d like to think we have gradually become less prudish about showing skin as bathing suits went from modest one-piece body suits to the teeny bikini.
But genitals and female breasts have continually remained taboo. Do our hang-ups about sex cause our hang-ups about full-frontal nudity? Take a look at this quote from an article about sex-positive activist Betty Dodson, where “nudity” can just as easily replace “sex,” and it’ll still be true:
“But on the other hand, I must admit, if I think about it carefully, we are collectively hung up about sex nudity. We’re embarrassed by it. We hide it. We stigmatize it and we collectively support the facade where in public we all treat it as socially unacceptable.
Nevertheless, it is very much a part of us. We can’t escape it; it is always with us. We can try and suppress it; we can try to hide it, but in the end, it will always come back to haunt us.”
Is the sex-positive movement good for naturism? In my opinion, absolutely. Perhaps in releasing our shame about sex, we can also release that shame about nudity. Or the shame about our bodies and the genitals we are always trying to hide.
We can accept that sex is part of being human. Hopefully we could learn to be as comfortable with our sexual parts, as we are with the rest of our bodies.
Aren’t some people opposed to trying nudism because it involves exposing particular parts, rather than because it reveals body fat or flaws? Because they are more self-conscious about their genitals?
In my research on sex-positive, I also came across this quote from Betty Dodson herself:
“If we could grow up knowing that the genitals are beautiful parts of our bodies, we’d be proud, we wouldn’t have shame, we wouldn’t have sexual guilt.”
It’s worth repeating: Genitals are beautiful parts of our bodies. Yes! For all those sex-positive educators and activists out there, please teach people this. The naturists, as well as a lot of other people, will be forever grateful. The sex-positive movement can benefit us all.
Goodbye body / sexuality / genital shame, hello sex-positive, body-positive world.
What do you think about the sex-positive movement / philosophy? Should nudists embrace it, and do you think it benefits naturism?