Nudie Lee Gives Advice On When to Reveal Your Nudie Self in a New Relationship
I’m at the start of a relationship. When’s the best time to tell him/her that you are a naturist, or that you like to participate in nude recreation?
Congrats on the new love. This is a tricky question, my fellow nudie. I’m not sure I have the scientific answer to this, but I will lay out a few options. You know your partner better than I do, and I am confident you will choose the correct path in opening up to them.
As I tell most of my readers, the first thing a naturist needs to understand is that non-naturists usually have a hard time understanding the dynamic of a nudie lifestyle. Most people brought up in North America are taught to be ashamed of their nakedness and that most nudity leads to sex. You and I both know this isn’t the case, but it’s hard to ignore the facts of our society.
You do not want to make your partner feel as if you omitted this “fact” about yourself in order to get what you wanted (i.e. sex) or with the intent of lying to them. Any relationship expert would/will tell you to be honest from the get-go, which in any case can’t be a bad idea. We nudies, on the other hand, know what it is to be judged wrongfully for our way of life.
Your two options go as follows:
- In the process of talking about yourself on your first few dates, bring up the fact that you are a naturist, and explain to your new flame (always without preaching!) what naturism entails and where you got it from (I got it from my mama!). If you are met with disdain and horror, maybe it is best for both of you to not follow through. If you are met with interest and questions about naturism, thank the stars (silently) and oblige. Then ask them about themselves. You can talk more about naturism on your next date!
- Date as any other people date. Get to know each other (but not all of each other). Build a solid foundation. Bring up your thoughts on bodies, on sex, on life. Once you feel secure in this new relationship, bring up that side of you. Make sure you do not make a big deal out of it (as if you are letting a cat out of the bag). This is who you are. By then, you will have exposed all sides of yourself. All the cards will be on the table. Both of you will have to make a decision on your relationship at this point. Will they accept the naturist in you?
At the end of the day, both of you will have to decide what is most important in your own lives, and what you think is crucial to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself, and with your new partner.
All the best,
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