Getting Naked From the Heart…Out

| October 4, 2013 | 34 Comments

Are Women Preventing Each Other From Getting Naked and Practicing Self-Love?

Guest Blog by: Patricia Anderson-Peters

Getting Naked and Practicing Self Love:

I’m not a nudist. We’ll start there. Not for lack of desire to be actually, I’d LOVE to be so free and uninhibited, but I’ve not arrived there yet. Sad part is—I’m 45 years old. I’m not young either.

So as a reader you might be wondering why I’m writing an article for the Young Naturists America website. It’s really because of the condition that I am.

An article written by Felicity Jones titled “Why Women Should See Other Women’s Naked Bodies” reminded me of the first time that I got naked around other women.

It was a spiritual initiation weekend in Florida and I had worked myself into a dither for days knowing that I was going to be naked around other people. Every fear I had carried around for over thirty years was taunting me and my two-kid-later, gravity challenged breasts just wanted to forget all about it.

When the time came and the other women stripped out of their clothing, I very slowly joined them. I was so sure that every eye in the place was surveying my my naked body, my stretch marks, my fat rolls and my “not so pink and perkies.”

In the end, I couldn’t have been more wrong. In that circle, we were all the pretty much the same. We were all just a bunch of incredibly spiritual women who had overcome huge challenges to get where we were. We body painted one another with colors and symbols that reflected our journeys.

If anyone was eyeballing my areolas, well…they were so clandestine about it that I just never knew it.

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Getting Naked From the Heart — Out by Patricia Anderson

Where did this fear of getting naked begin? This body loathing?

It seems to me that it can’t be natural to be fearful of your lovers seeing you naked. A lot of women will say that their body issues stem from the media and from the irrational desires that men have for the perfect female form. But looking back, I don’t think that is an altogether true assessment.

Self-image issues and body hatred didn’t begin with how the men around me saw me—it really began with how the women in my life saw me. It started with the powder room politics of puberty. Girls can be the most catty creatures on the planet in their teen years. We judged one another from the way our hair was combed, to the heels we wore.

We snickered at the size of one another’s breasts and butts, and we whispered behind hands if we couldn’t see the light of day between another girl’s thighs. Let’s be honest, ladies. It wasn’t the guys that did this to us. We did this to each other. We slammed each other. We saved our money and bought Vogue and we starved ourselves to wear a size 1 pair of Guess jeans. Sadder still, we did it all to try to gain the acceptance of one another, not the sexual appreciation of the males around us. Men don’t buy the magazines — they date the women who do.

Perhaps if women saw one another naked more often, this farce that’s been pawned and passed from generation to generation would be put down like the rabid dog that it is. No two breasts are alike even on ONE body, even less so on more than one body!

There are perky breasts, saggy breasts, pink and brown nipples, large and small ones too. There are slim thighs, fat thighs, long and short legs. The anatomical parts and differences list is long and distinguished, but it is still only a list of parts. A woman is more than the sum of her parts. She is heart, she is soul, she is experience, she is fluidity and she is dynamic.

If we could learn to appreciate one another more than judging one another, the power that we have together is enough to break the negativity that has defined us for far too long. We need to return to that Red Tent, body-painting Soul-Woman appreciation of who we are when we stand together, rather than ripping each other apart just because we can.

More importantly, maybe it’s time to take responsibility for the fact that it’s not the men in our world and it’s not the media that is driving this poor appraisal system that has fostered a generation of eating disordered, emotionally violent women. We did this. We did this to our sisters and we did this to ourselves. Maybe we need to get naked ladies… from the hearts—out.

Getting Naked From the Heart was published by – Young Naturists and Nudists America

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