In The Nudist World Communication Is Tough! Especially with Vita Nuda Northeast (VNNE)!
Post by Jordan Blum
Communicating with Vita Nuda North East in the Nudist World Is Not Easy!
Nudist World – Doing something good for others and the motives behind these voluntary actions is a topic that has come up. It’s a subject that I think, at the very least, warrants a discussion. Humans in general are egoistic creatures, which is why the debate continues as to whether or not there is such a thing as a “selfless good deed.”
Unfortunately I keep finding out that in the nudie world there seems to be an overwhelming amount of people for whom their ego is the main source behind their actions. So with that in mind let’s get to talking… You all know what we (YNA & Ranger World) went through to set up and promote our Nude Years Eve party.
Hours and hours of emailing, posting, press releases, contacting sponsors (for our naked charity initiative), reviewing every single request that we got to try and weed out the odd balls (pardon the pun) and not to mention the money that went into putting it all together. Ask any one of the organizers (again – YNA & Ranger World people) just how much of our hearts and souls went into creating the naked party, how many emails and texts went back and forth at almost every hour of the day.
There is no question that we reached out to as many people and organizations as we physically could. We knew that no matter what we would probably end up losing money, but for us that was far less important than bringing people together and celebrating our way of life only to have it all come crashing down a few hours before the event was supposed to start.
As soon as we found out, our number one concern was to inform as many people as we possibly could. Hotel reservations would need to be canceled, and people who were coming from far away needed to know to make other arrangements. The organizers, who fronted up all the money, needed to prepare for whatever lay ahead and try to come up with an alternative plan.
Calls were made to everyone we could think of to try and find an alternative venue. Finally about 3 – 4 hours before the event was to begin, we got a call from one of the members of Vita Nuda Northeast who said that she found a venue for us. After speaking with the owner of the venue we were given his phone number and took it from there.
A venue being secured, we began scrambling. Luckily we have a great group of people who volunteered – some came early to help set up, some offered their vehicles, some drove hours and brought all kinds of things that were needed. There was a sense of unity that had it not been the case, the party would have never happened.
To show our appreciation to the Vita Nuda people who helped find a venue, we posted a public thank you, stopped the party at some point to announce how appreciative we were for their help and even allowed them to hang up their Vita nuda flag – even though it was by no means their event. Basically they helped find a venue by making some phone calls and passing on the info to us.
(They even showed up late, the DJ that was supposedly a VNNE friend actually charged us (after showing up late as well) and they even gave us the incorrect information about the cost – which came out to be far more expensive than they had said).
After the party, we posted a blog thanking all the sponsors for their generosity and to all those who took an active role over the past few weeks. What happened next came as a bit of a surprise – even to me! The blog was posted by Vita Nuda Northeast VNNE, in a facebook group, with a comment that read:
* â€Ž”but miraculously we managed to put a new party together in three hours in Long Island City!”
* Not such a Miracle but rather the use of your available resources, Vita Nuda…
** The first part is a quote from the blog while the second part is the comment from Vita Nuda.
This brings up an interesting question… should we have listed every single person that helped us put the event together? People helped set up, people helped clean up, some helped with the venue, others helped with getting security and the list goes on and on (kind of like the credits at the end of a movie). The fact of the matter is that we singled out those people who really invested a ton of money, time and energy into making this event possible in the first place. The claim that we used valuable resources is a bit of a stretch… don’t get me wrong, we were all happy that a venue was found but at the end of the day, but wasn’t a public online “thank you” enough?
All too often in this world, people do things that might have a positive impact. But if they do it for selfish and self-serving reasons then in the long run it might have proven better not to do anything at all. The reason that I say this is simple – it feels more like a set-up than a good deed. The repercussions of such acts echo for a long time after everything has been said and done. Would I assume correctly that if someone helps somebody out, only to throw it back in their faces, it ends up tearing people apart rather than bringing them together?
Nudist Communication Issues
We at Young Naturists & Young Nudists America help people as well as organizations almost every other day. Most of which will never make it to the public domain because of this very reason. If I decided to help someone it is because that is what I feel is the right thing to do. If that person decides to return the favor then it is totally up to them. Doing something with ulterior self-serving motives has a tendency of breeding negativity as is the case here. Just look at the two responses that the post got and judge for yourself.
Another issue that keeps surfacing is the inability of people to be direct. Posting that comment publicly forced my hand and generated this public response. Whereas a private email would have most likely resulted in an update to the original article. Why post a spiteful and public response when all that was needed was an email along the lines of: “Hey I read your post about the event and was a little upset to see you did not mention me. Was it an oversight on your part? I feel it is only fair, so would you mind updating it? Or at least giving me an explanation as to why you did not mention me?”
So in closing…
1 – What are your thoughts about doing something just for the sake of helping others?
2 – What can be done to get people to understand the benefits of direct and open communication and the devastating repercussions of passive aggressive or negative public posts?