My body image issues and facing my fear of social nudity
Overcoming body Image Issues Through social Nudity
Overcoming Body Image Issues – When I grew up in high school I did so with about fifty extra pounds of weight on me. At the time, I wasn’t sure what drove the change. The weight started piling on in junior high school, and despite a hyper childhood involving many sports, it only seemed to accumulate.
Due to the weight gain, I started to develop male breasts. I felt ashamed and did whatever I could to hide them. I slouched to avoid having anybody see them but since I was in my development stage, the slouching led to a permanent hunch in my back. I became very depressed and uncomfortable about my appearance. I did whatever I could think of to hide my weight.
As I grew and matured, the pounds slowly began to come come off. Today I am quite tall, have little body fat and am generally considered slender. Having said that, I still avoid being naked in front of others and even try to keep my shirt on during intimate moments with girlfriends I have had.
The stretch marks remain to this day and while I am not considered thin, my naked body, stretch marks and all, often comes as a shock to others. They have no idea I carried that weight at one point in my life.
My body image issues changed drastically once I went overseas to study in Japan. In Japan, there are nude hot springs (I only discovered the naked part later). These springs are commonly used as a way to provide a medicinal bath to those in need of the curative benefits of the mineral water.
Visiting the hot springs was high on my list of things I wanted to experience in Japan. So one day, I forced myself to visit one of these spas. I started by trying to buy a bathing suit but when I realized that no one could wear anything at the spa, I quickly disrobed. There were hundreds of naked men! They walked in front of me nude, with little care or concern regarding who or what I am. They did not seem to care whether I have stretch marks or bad posture.
It was at that moment that I realized that it wasn’t their opinion I had to change – but my own. Being comfortable in your own skin and being happy with who you are is what is important. Those around you who happen to glance at an imperfection or two on your body should not be a concern – the simple fact is that most just don’t care what you look like. As you mature, you realize that people have their own problems, their own concerns and are simply not all that concerned with some physical imperfection that you may have. In setting where everyone is naked, how you interact and treat others is what truly matters.
The only regret I have is that I waited this long to try social nudity. Perhaps, if I have done this much earlier in life, I would not have had to live with so much shame and body image issues for so long.
This blog about overcoming body image issues through social nudity was published by Young Naturists and Nudists America – YNA.