Ask Nudie Lee: How Do I Confront My Nudist Parents?

| December 12, 2014 | 12 Comments

How Do I tell My Secretive Nudist Parents That We Enjoy The Same Thing?

Q.
I have enjoyed going nude ever since I can remember, but I wasn’t raised a nudist. It wasn’t uncommon to see my parents in their underwear, but that’s it. When I was around 14, my parents caught me going nude and I explained to them that I like to be naked when they’re not home. They just told me to be careful when I do it and my dad told me to just make sure my mom was never around for it because it’s “not acceptable” to go naked around family. But that was the end of it. So the feeling I got from them was it’s ok to be naked but not around your family (for some reason it seems they can’t wrap their head around family nudism). Since then any conversation about nudism, especially about them or me, has not come up. I personally have absolutely no objections to family nudism and feel that it’s great when a family can experience nudism together. To be honest I always wish I grew up in a nudist family so I wouldn’t have to hide it.

Anyway I continued going naked as much as I could and started going to the nude beach when I turned 17. Well today I went to the beach and when I was looking for a parking spot, I passed my parents car….Turns out they were there at the nude beach! I spotted them from afar and could see they were naked.

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Now I’m not sure how I should approach the situation and if I should let them know I enjoy going to the beach too, or just let it go. I stayed away from them and kind of hid because I was initially shocked and worried how they would react to seeing me there. I love going to the nude beach and go every opportunity I can. My parents also always talk about going to the beach, I just didn’t know until recently they also went to the nude one. In addition, due to the dark all-over tan, it is evident they go to the nude beach often and therefore, the chances of me seeing them there again are probably very good. I no longer live at home with them but was wondering how I should approach this situation and if I should let them know I enjoy the same beach. I personally think it’s very cool that my parents are also interested in nudism and wish I knew years ago so I wouldn’t have had to hide it.

But I don’t know if they were nudists back when I was a teenager, or if this is a more recent thing for them.

Naked Family Picture With Naturist Nudist Parents

Naked Family Picture With Naturist Nudist Parents

My only concern is how they will react if they see me there. Since it is the winter now, should I just try to bring up a casual conversation about enjoying being naked and going to the beach? Or should I wait until the summer and see if I run into them again at the beach… if I do, should I hide? Or walk right up to them? Or go a less direct way and maybe “just so happen to be” walking by the water or getting out of the water when they’re doing the same and “accidentally” bump into them? That way we can all have an equal shock factor and possibly discuss our mutual love for being at the nude beach. Please let me know what you think, all of your advice will be greatly appreciated.

— Son of Secret Nudist Parents

A.
Dear Son of Secret Nudist Parents,

You’ve got yourself a premise for a pretty funny movie!

In all seriousness, I truly believe that you must respect your parents’ wishes when it comes to family nudism. If your father told you your mother wasn’t comfortable with it, I’m sure she has her reasons. As a woman, your mother goes through the same insecurities as we all do, and maybe those are brought to the surface when confronted with nudity in a family setting. Some other women might be uncomfortable with the idea of their grown daughter being naked in front of other men.

A lot of nudies prefer keeping their naked selves a secret, for whatever reason seems right to them. They might be ashamed of it, or they might get a rush from it when it is shared only with their partner (in this case, your father sharing it with your mother).

I wouldn’t suggest confronting them at the beach because it seems to be their little haven, and you wouldn’t want to take that away from them. You could, on the other hand, bring up the “no tan lines” in a funny/joking (but loving) way when you are all together. But if they deny it, let it be. We should never impose our ways on others and as much as you seem to want to share this with them, if they are not open to it, then that settles it.

Count your blessings that your parents never told you it wasn’t ok to be naked, and that you were able to grow and love your naked self. Not everyone is as lucky as you, and some others are luckier. That’s just the way life is, isn’t it?

See you at the beach!

Love,
Nudie Lee xx

What do you think, readers? What sort of advice would you give in this situation?

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Part-time writer, part-time barista, and highly opinionated, Nudie Lee bursts onto the scene! Forged in a far-off land of frigid temperatures, large vicious animals, and universal health care, she is here to help with all of your dating and relationship questions.